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I think it’s important to raise awareness of how AWESOME & EXCITING it can be to live a childfree life! Whether someone is childfree by choice or circumstance, it can be very fulfilling, rewarding and fun to be childfree!! So, I’ve decided to share some of my favorite life experiences with everyone that I know for a fact I would not have been able to do by this point in my life if I had kids!
Of course, I realize some people who have kids are able to enjoy these experiences as well, so I’m not trying to imply that only childfree individuals get to live an adventurous life. However, often people must choose between experiencing the finer things in life, or even just financial stability, and raising a family because kids are extremely expensive. And when I look at my parent-friends who are wealthy enough to enjoy these experiences with kids, they still can’t/don’t do them very often, if at all, for other reasons such as: 1) The kids don’t have enough time off school to travel 2) They’re afraid to participate in risky adventures because of what would happen to their kids if something happened to them 3) The kids are too young to participate in adventurous experiences, or are too young to travel with (it’s difficult to lug around diapers, not to mention a young child, and it’s expensive to pay for kids to participate in experiences they won’t remember!) 4) The parents feel too guilty to travel or do other fun things without their kids, and the guilt actually makes these experiences less fun for the parents 5) Parents worry about the ability of others to watch their kids while they’re away, and this also makes taking kid-free vacations less fun for parents.
From my experiences, there appears to be a HUGE discrepancy between what people THINK their lives will be like with kids and the reality of what their lives are ACTUALLY like with kids! It seems that many parents didn’t appreciate/realize the cost of children or the amount of sacrifices they would have to make until they actually had kids. Or perhaps they were overly confident in their abilities to do it all, or were in denial about the realities of raising kids because they wanted them so badly!
For instance, how many of you have heard friends/family/co-workers say “I want kids, but I will never let having kids stop me from doing ___,” but then a number of years later you have seen those same individuals have to give up whatever it was they swore they wouldn’t because of their kids?!? In my experiences, this situation has been the case for the overwhelming majority of parents I know! I’ve frequently heard parents say: “I used to be into -insert hobby/activity here- before I had kids, but I can’t do it, I don’t have the time/money/energy or my spouse won’t let me now that we have kids.” They have had to give up their passions in life, and I can visibly SEE the sadness in their eyes when they talk about this! I am very thankful that I have stayed childfree while many friends have jumped into having children, because I have had the opportunity to learn from my friends situations what it is like to have kids and that it is not the right choice for me.
Below I’ve listed some of my more memorable life experiences that I’ve been able to enjoy because of my decision to be childfree. I know that this list would be MUCH smaller or non-existent if I had kids. I cherish each of these memories and to a large extent, I believe they make me who I am today! Please feel free to share the awesome things you have been able to enjoy in life because you’re childfree as well!!
Sailed to Phi Phi Island, rented a scooter to get around the streets of Phuket, sat front and center for a Muay-Thai fight, and participated in the Songkran Festival (Thai new year water celebration) in Thailand
Drank glacier water straight from the source and hopped over crevasses while glacier trekking in Alaska
Stayed in a suite with an outdoor shower at an all-inclusive resort in Mexico – with an adults only pool!
Went on a motorcycle ride down Lombard street, one of Americas crookedest streets, and through the Mission district of San Francisco
Soaked in some amazingly beautiful natural hot springs during the day & at night along the AZ/NV border
Enjoyed peace, quiet, relaxation and the beautiful scenery after hiking 10 miles to get to Havasu Falls in Arizona
Saw flowing lava while hiking Hilo volcano in Hawaii
Stood on Mt. Etna before it erupted
Hiked a volcano in Guatemala where we got to roast marshmallows by the heat of the volcano and explored lava tubes during a medical mission trip
Sailed the Whitsundays to some beautiful and mostly deserted white sandy beaches, stayed a couple nights on Daydream Island, surfed in surfers paradise, saw Ayers Rock, spent the night in a swag, explored the outback, got up close to Goanna monitor lizards, saw a dingo, spent a couple nights on Fraser Island before it got partially swallowed up by a sink hole, flew over the Olgas, went scuba diving in the Great Barrier Reef and got closer than I should have to an baby Eastern brown snake in a bathroom (only the 2nd most venomous snake in the world!!) in Australia
Went on a Gondola ride, wined & dined, watched a glass blowing show, shopped for a venetian mask and saw the beautiful sunset reflecting in the pink glass of the street lamps in Venice
Explored ancient Petra in Jordan and ancient ruins in Turkey
Descended into salt mines in Poland and Germany
Cruised the Mediterranean Sea
Roamed through Rhodes, Greece
Attended the annual Detroit Auto Show
Stayed in a suite with a walk in shower, butler service and floor to ceiling city views at the luxurious Langham hotel in Chicago
Saw the adorable monkeys atop the mountain of Gibraltar in Spain/the U.K., fed them and even had one drive me around lol
Heard howler monkeys, saw adorable coaties, enjoyed breathtaking views of the Arenal Volcano at the Observatory Lodge, zip-lined in the cloud forest, rappelled through a canyon and got to see sloths, coral snakes tarantulas and pit vipers on a couple night hikes in Costa Rica
Experienced the unique desert beauty of the Sonoran desert, got to witness a desert wedding that happened to be taking place 4-5 miles into Sabino Canyon, almost stepped on a venomous Gila monster while hiking, and watched javelina safely cross the road
Bought myself a Porsche
Ran barefoot under the Eiffel tower with a bunch of friends as we tried to catch the last bus of the night
Went wine tasting in the Chianti Hills, the famous wine region in Tuscany, Italy
Swam in my private plunge pool and spent the night in a comfy bed sleeping outside under the stars on the terrace in my suite at the Amangiri Resort
Spent a week camping in the upper peninsula of Michigan with my boyfriend, explored Pictured Rocks, Paradise, and we took a ferry and biked into a campsite on Grand Island then biked around the island for 10 miles without seeing another person the entire time!
Lived in a high rise condo with floor to ceiling views on the Las Vegas strip, had a massive party with a DJ at the 2,000sqft crib suite at the Palms, and learned the ways of getting free table service & gaining access to the hottest places in Vegas for free!
Relaxed on the beach at Naples Grand Resort
Went canyoneering, rock climbing and hiking out west
Hosted a blacklight party
Boated in to the Raft Off in Michigan
Went jetskiing on lakes and oceans around the world
Partied @ club Pacha in Ibiza
Stood in front of the famous megaliths at Stonehenge
Dabbled in flying lessons & Cooking classes at Le Cordon Bleu
Alright I’ll stop there… Would love it if you share some of your favorite experiences either in the comments or in a blog post! You must be a member to leave a comment, but it’s totally free to join and you can sign up via facebook to make it super fast! If you’ve posted on this topic somewhere else, you can always E-mail a link to DINKInternational@use.startmail.com and we will make sure it get’s posted!
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