Most people grow up assuming they will have kids without even thinking about the option of not having them, because it’s so engrained in society that that is the way of life. But having kids is a choice! And it’s a decision that should be given lots of thought, rather than something that is done because
it’s what society expects. Society has painted the picture that having kids is a very positive experience, but in reality there are lots of negatives that should be taken into account as well…
This is true for both men and women, however, the biggest changes will likely be seen amongst women – as women continue to gain independence in society, the more they will start to consider the option of not having kids.
There is no doubt that raising kids is a challenge. Someone has to be there to care for them, which means that at least one parent will most likely have to make career sacrifices to do so. Alternatively, working parents could hire help, but the expense of childcare can add significant stress to the couples financial situation. The cost of raising a child even without childcare expenses these days is quite high, which often means more sacrifices elsewhere. Then there is the factor of time – kids require attention (lots of it) & discipline; someone has to be there for that too. This often means less time to spend with your partner (or searching for a life partner if a parent is single). These are just a few of the challenges that can arise… In the end, there are lots of factors that should be seriously considered before such a life-changing situation is made!
It’s unthinkable, and it’s definitely unspeakable, but women all over the world are coming forward to say it: I regret having my children. Here’s the thing about realizing that you shouldn’t have had kids,” says Laura*, 37, a journalist based in Los Angeles. “You can’t take the decision back.”
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